Malta Baby & Kids Directory: Schools

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 Communication in families 

 Words by Steve Libreri – Social Worker and Parent Coach

 

Communication within the family is nowadays an important consideration. In an era of technology which is supposedly intended to eradicate all potential barriers to communication, communication breakdown sounds like quite a paradox. However, the frequency of reports and complaints by parents and caregivers about their dissatisfaction with regard to communication issues, suggests that this is in fact a real challenge faced by many families.

Difficult communication seems to be the cause of many family problems. Serious attention to this problem is therefore of utmost importance in order to achieve a positive family experience. When children are young, they absorb the cues given by their environment. This puts considerable responsibility on adults to teach by example and model behaviour.

The ultimate investment in child wellbeing is time and attention, as these give children the reassurance that they are cared for. Time for, and attention to, children also guarantees a sense of nurturing, protection and security. Being still inexperienced, children begin to make sense of the world and form the first rules and ideas about the world through their exchanges with their parents. Therefore making positive plans and interacting with children in a caring way will certainly help in teaching them that their parents are there for them. A steady relationship will form the basis of all communication in the future. So as parents, make your investments early. If your children see you as present and caring, they will reciprocate with a degree of trust necessary for future exchanges.

 
 
 

 

  

 

 

 

 Building a Safety Net 

 

This article was written by Andrew Azzopardi, consultant for ibrowsesafely.com.mtVodafone Malta Foundation

Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat….the list of social media sites is already very long and as time goes on, it is bound to get longer. Parents need to involve themselves in their children’s online lives to help guide their progeny through the ever-changing cyber-world.

MCA’s latest study ‘Children’s Internet Use and Parents - Perceptions of Their Children’s Online Experience’, states that 99.4% of children in primary and secondary schools have access to the internet and 78% of children look to their parents for information related to the internet. 

ibrowsesafely.com.mt has developed 6 golden rules to guide parents. 

The keystone to putting the six golden rules into practice is laying the groundwork for an open and honest dialogue with your child. This means your children will be more likely to turn to you for support or advice if they find themselves in an uncomfortable, difficult or scary situation. This open-door policy is the best first line of defence to keeping your child safe online.

You should show an interest in the websites and social media platforms your children use and take the initiative to use the internet and learn about the latest technologies, apps and platforms. Platforms like ibrowsesafely.com.mt are a useful tool for parents to support and simplify this type of research.

Online activity should be approached very much like real life; discuss the benefits and dangers of the internet, ask your children about what they do to keep themselves safe. Sometimes they might not have even thought about safety and having a straightforward but stress-free chat about it can raise their awareness without alarming them unnecessarily.

For more detail on each of the 6 Golden Rules, please visit ibrowsesafely.com.mtibrowsesafely.com.mt is an initiative born within the Vodafone Malta Foundation, as part of Vodafone Group initiative Digital Parenting. 

 

 
 
 

 

 

The Faces of Child Abuse

Words by Daniela Farrugia Camoin

BA, MA Youth and Community Studies and Personal Performance Coach Founder of Positive Parenting Strategies

Child maltreatment is certainly not a new phenomenon.  Unfortunately it has existed since the beginning of recorded history.  Even more unfortunate is that it is on the rise across the globe.  We often associate child abuse to broken bones and bruises.  In other words, to visible scars.  Yet other than physical abuse there are other types of abuse, which more often than not go unnoticed because the scars are not as obvious.  This type of abuse includes emotional and sexual abuse and neglect.  All abuse, whether physical, emotional, sexual or neglect leave deep, lasting scars which children carry with them  into  adulthood  and  beyond  the  time  they  were  actually abused. No individual should turn a blind eye to child abuse.  It is important to break the cycle when we find out that this is actually happening.  The earlier abused children get help, the greater the chance for them to heal and not let the abuse inflict lifelong problems such as lack of trust  and  relationship  difficulties,  trouble  regulating  emotions  and feelings of being  ‘worthless’ and ‘damaged’. There are a number of common myths surrounding the tragedy of child abuse.  Society tends to think that child abuse does not happen in ‘good’ families.  However, statistics show that child abuse crosses all economic, racial and cultural lines.  Another very common myth is that the majority of child abusers are strangers to the child – yet the very sad truth is that most abusers are family members or people who are very close to the family.  Children who have been abused do not always grow up to be abusers.  Whilst the chances of the cycle repeating  itself  is  a  strong  possibility,  most  survivors  indeed  grow into  strong  adults  who  have  a  strong  motivation  to protect  their children  against  what  they  went  through  and  become excellent parents.

 

Daniela Farrugia Camoin

Email: info@positiveparentingstrategies.net

Website: www.positiveparentingstrategies.net

Facebook: Positive Parenting Strategies

 

Mobile No.: 99922137 

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Understanding anger and supporting children to manage it constructively 

In their development and growth, children often find themselves in stressful circumstances.  Frustration is a challenging and critical component in a child’s developmental growth, which if not overcome, will often manifest itself in outbursts of anger. 

We live in a culture where so much emphasis is placed on performance, achievement and on delivering quick results. Sometimes this is experienced as peer pressure, even more so in school.  If children are not taught constructive ways to express anger and frustration they frequently act out aggressive behavior in order to express their feelings. It is important to acknowledge that anger is a valid emotion. It informs us that something is not quite right and it is fundamental for children to know that it is acceptable to feel angry, otherwise they may turn their anger onto themselves, causing self-harm. As adults we may need to learn to listen to our children more and encourage them to manage their emotions in a way that supports healthy functioning.  

Anger is a form of distress that combines physiological and emotional arousal and often leads to conflict. Anger also controls other emotions like fear, sadness and shame that children find difficult to cope with.  Such a state of being influences their social and emotional well-being and has a direct impact on learning.  When a child is in distress, it is difficult for him or her to learn. We need to teach them how to regulate their emotional state before they can be open to respond positively or to assimilate information. 

Children thus need to develop skills that support them to manage their anger, such as learning to

- take time out

- move away from the zone of conflict

- breathe; breathing exercises help the child calm down and regulate his/her physiological state of arousal

- count to ten; this also helps to calm down and delay acting out

- become aware of where the child’s anger tenses up the body, such as in the hands, feet...

- find a positive way to release the pent up energy, like bouncing a ball or going for a run...

- find an adult or a friend to talk to

- be honest about feelings

- imagine ways that would help resolve conflicts 

- think of a good solution 

It is important to acknowledge and support their positive thinking as this will also reinforce their positive behaviour. Often, children are angry at themselves as they believe that they are the cause of our disappointments. We need to reflect on how anger is managed within the family system as well as at school since children mirror adult behaviour. If we are not too hard on ourselves and accept that we sometimes fail then we give children permission to tolerate their own failures. Our role as parents and educators is to provide a safe space where we can challenge and support them to learn and to develop into mature adults. In a constructive environment, children may surprise us with positive ways they develop to manage their anger.

Anna Fenech holds a MA degree in Expressive Arts Therapy and is a Gestalt Psychotherapist. She is also trained as a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor with children and young adults. She works in different settings and also runs a private practice working with children and adults.   

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